Be present. Turn your autopilot off.

Most of the unhappy individuals you’ll meet have one thing in common: they run on autopilot. Cruise control.

They don’t want to wake up in the morning, they have to. They scream at everyone, they smoke, eat unhealthily, and they commute farther than they’d like to.

They hate every meter of their morning ride, honking, and shouting, showing fingers in morning traffic outbursts.

And they complain. A lot. About the boss, the company, the government. It’s always somebody else to blame.

And if you dig deeper, they run on autopilot. Every day they hate everything they do. Rinse, and repeat. You ask Why, and they’re surprised: mortgage for the house, car loan, things they buy, that’s why.

Let’s stop pretending that’s the hard life. It’s easy. It is easy to not do anything. It is easy to complain without considering solutions.

Have you ever noticed, that you never find an unhappy person with an active lifestyle? Stressed yoga practitioner. Angry meditator. Depressed runner.

It’s not life to blame, it’s You. You turned on your own autopilot, and then you let go. Because it’s easier, going with the flow, suffering through the pain.

Taking the steering wheel is the hard thing. It’s going to be hard. You have to make some tough choices. Accept responsibility. Say to the person in the mirror:“It’s your fault!“

Maybe sell this shiny car that cost way more than you can afford. Sell the rest of the stuff that doesn’t add real value. You know, the things you don’t need, but bought them to impress the people you don’t like.

Go pay off your debts. Get some financial discipline. Live below your means. Simplify. Own less. Stick with what makes you happy.

Sure, it’s hard. You know you have to do sports if you want to be stronger. You have to eat better if you want to become leaner. You have to quit smoking if you don’t want to die young and smelly. You have to avoid impulse purchases to save money for the things you really need.

It’s tough. But sooner or later, all those have to’s turn into want-to’s. And suddenly you’re much more relaxed, content, joyful. Life is easier. You have hobbies, and you’re better at your job. Better at living.

Every change is hard. But the results of good efforts outweigh the energy invested. That’s why we do it. That’s why the best of our species don’t run on autopilot.

Shut off your cruise-control. Take the steering wheel. Push the pedal. Do. It. Now!

Steer to the place where you’re exactly what you always wanted to be. You already know how to get there. Drum bun!

… and God bless!

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