Be present. Turn your autopilot off.

Most of the unhappy individuals you’ll meet have one thing in common: they run on autopilot. Cruise control.

They don’t want to wake up in the morning, they have to. They scream at everyone, they smoke, eat unhealthily, and they commute farther than they’d like to.

They hate every meter of their morning ride, honking, and shouting, showing fingers in morning traffic outbursts.

And they complain. A lot. About the boss, the company, the government. It’s always somebody else to blame.

And if you dig deeper, they run on autopilot. Every day they hate everything they do. Rinse, and repeat. You ask Why, and they’re surprised: mortgage for the house, car loan, things they buy, that’s why.

Let’s stop pretending that’s the hard life. It’s easy. It is easy to not do anything. It is easy to complain without considering solutions.

Have you ever noticed, that you never find an unhappy person with an active lifestyle? Stressed yoga practitioner. Angry meditator. Depressed runner.

It’s not life to blame, it’s You. You turned on your own autopilot, and then you let go. Because it’s easier, going with the flow, suffering through the pain.

Taking the steering wheel is the hard thing. It’s going to be hard. You have to make some tough choices. Accept responsibility. Say to the person in the mirror:“It’s your fault!“

Maybe sell this shiny car that cost way more than you can afford. Sell the rest of the stuff that doesn’t add real value. You know, the things you don’t need, but bought them to impress the people you don’t like.

Go pay off your debts. Get some financial discipline. Live below your means. Simplify. Own less. Stick with what makes you happy.

Sure, it’s hard. You know you have to do sports if you want to be stronger. You have to eat better if you want to become leaner. You have to quit smoking if you don’t want to die young and smelly. You have to avoid impulse purchases to save money for the things you really need.

It’s tough. But sooner or later, all those have to’s turn into want-to’s. And suddenly you’re much more relaxed, content, joyful. Life is easier. You have hobbies, and you’re better at your job. Better at living.

Every change is hard. But the results of good efforts outweigh the energy invested. That’s why we do it. That’s why the best of our species don’t run on autopilot.

Shut off your cruise-control. Take the steering wheel. Push the pedal. Do. It. Now!

Steer to the place where you’re exactly what you always wanted to be. You already know how to get there. Drum bun!

… and God bless!

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Little things that we never do

imageIn February 2016 I got inspired by Medium, and published this short story titled  581 words from Warsaw.

In it, I wrote about the little wish to go sightseeing:

but I never really went to do any planned sightseeing. Haven’t visited any museums. And there are some I’d really like to see. Like the Invisible Museum where they turn you into a blind person and you get to experience what they live every day. And surely I’d like to go to the Big Bastard’s 30th floor deck and take some shots. And probably the old Gestapo HQ. That would be a plan I might be able to fit into one of the days after all the meetings are finished. Yes, I should definitely put that on my plan for next visit in April.

But I haven’t done it that April. Nor will I do it this April. Because – life.

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ideas4growth Manifesto.

ideas4growth is a platform where I share my thoughts about getting paid, getting laid, and losing weightcareer, life, personal growth & development, sales & marketing, gear, book reviews, and other everyday things.

This is where I essay my quest for simplicity, mindfulness, creativity, lifelong learning, and becoming a better leader, manager, husband, father. A better man. —For this is a trip of a lifetime, not a short getaway.

ideas4growth is where I go pursue Lebenslanges Lernen in anything that sparks my interest.

Ora et labora. Mens sana in corpore sano. These are the domains in which I’d like to write like a motherfucker

God bless!

Not sure why these still have to be written nowadays, but here we go:

  • all views, opinions, and whatever I write here are mine, and do not reflect, nor are supported by my employer.

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Get paid. Get laid. Lose weight.

Get paid. Get laid. Lose weight. The first time I read this was from James Altucher — either on his blog, or from his book (The Choose Yourself Guide to Wealth).

And he said that these are the three things people will pay money for. It’s true, it’s what I’m paying money for. It’s what interests me, it’s what’s interests everybody. And it’s catchy, it could be tagline for my blog. Actually, I’m going to the WordPress site, and updating it right now ;-)

Done.

I’ll need to define those categories, and also publish these descriptions on the blog, so people will be clear about the meaning. While Get Laid is a bit controversial, I actually believe that’s a good thing — a conversation starter, emotion sparker, something that makes it memorable. It plays on basic human emotions.

So let’s make more detailed descriptions.

Get Paid. 

This is the category where you’ll find posts related to your professional growth, and development. Anything from basic learning, skills, trainings, and reading will be in here, as long as it’s related to your job, and getting better at it. Basically, the things you get paid for. Ora et labora, according to Saint Benedict.

Get Laid. 

This is your personal growth, and development. It’s all about making you a better person, partner, spouse, human being.

Basically, this is the Mens sana part of the Mens sana in corpore sano (Healthy mind in a healthy body) quote.

Sorry to disappoint you, –it’s not about sex. Or at least not directly. Not a lot. Well, it IS about sex, since EVERYTHING is about sex? :-)

Lose Weight. 

In here you’ll find anything related to healthy living, active lifestyle, sports, and the corpore sano part of the “Healthy mind in a healthy body” phrase.

God bless!

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